I work from home. I have an office and a laptop and those are all I really need. But my wife just had a baby. I can't take the crying all day. I love my baby but I need to work. So I go to a nearby starbucks and work at least five hours before I get home and help my wife with the baby and other things.
I've been working at starbucks for almost a month now. Last week though, something funny happened. Not really funny, but... The barista Linda, we see each other everyday since I started hanging out at the coffee shop to work, handed me a napkin with her number on it. For a week now, I have been beating myself up whether I should call her or not. She's beautiful but it's wrong in all levels. But I'm just a guy too.
Yeah, coffee shops are, indeed, a great place for meeting new people, flirting as well. No dude, don't call her cos if you do, the next time you will be at the Starbucks, you cannot work anymore. Hehehe.
Yeah, coffee shops are, indeed, a great place for meeting new people, flirting as well. No dude, don't call her cos if you do, the next time you will be at the Starbucks, you cannot work anymore. Hehehe.
Just like the one you see in some movies wherein romances grew from a mere acquaintance at the coffee shops. So cute.
Well, since you haven't placed a foot inside yet, don't get started. You might regret it. Don't do things you might regret later on, or don't get yourself in a situation you may not be able to get out of. Avoid while it's still early. You really need to cut your wife some slack. Having a baby isn't easy. If anything, you should appreciate her more.
All all I can say is that there is nothing wrong if you go and flirt with that woman as well. Just clean fun, nothing under the table. It will be total icebreaker from a so-serious work over laptop and coffee. Just don't go overboard. Okey?
overcoffee wrote:I work from home. I have an office and a laptop and those are all I really need. But my wife just had a baby. I can't take the crying all day. I love my baby but I need to work. So I go to a nearby starbucks and work at least five hours before I get home and help my wife with the baby and other things.
I've been working at starbucks for almost a month now. Last week though, something funny happened. Not really funny, but... The barista Linda, we see each other everyday since I started hanging out at the coffee shop to work, handed me a napkin with her number on it. For a week now, I have been beating myself up whether I should call her or not. She's beautiful but it's wrong in all levels. But I'm just a guy too.
Man, if you say that you love your wife and your baby, then think of what all these would do to them. You don't know how much hurt there is to find out that your partner is cheating. Don't jeopardize your life and your marriage all because you find a barista beautiful.
All all I can say is that there is nothing wrong if you go and flirt with that woman as well. Just clean fun, nothing under the table. It will be total icebreaker from a so-serious work over laptop and coffee. Just don't go overboard. Okey?
So how do you know if it's time to stop, when you're overboard? the thing is, most people DO NOT know where they crossed the line and even WHERE the line is!
I work from home. I have an office and a laptop and those are all I really need. But my wife just had a baby. I can't take the crying all day. I love my baby but I need to work. So I go to a nearby starbucks and work at least five hours before I get home and help my wife with the baby and other things.
I've been working at starbucks for almost a month now. Last week though, something funny happened. Not really funny, but... The barista Linda, we see each other everyday since I started hanging out at the coffee shop to work, handed me a napkin with her number on it. For a week now, I have been beating myself up whether I should call her or not. She's beautiful but it's wrong in all levels. But I'm just a guy too.
Oh PFFFT right? Man, as long as you know how to wing it, then go for it. You won't know what you're missing unless you go for it man!
Linda might be the last girl on earth you'd be able to have besides your wife, why grapple with the what-ifs and what could have beens
The fact that you're beating yourself up over this is a great indicator that you want it too.... so go for it. Be safe and don't get caught, though.
Yeah, coffee shops are, indeed, a great place for meeting new people, flirting as well. No dude, don't call her cos if you do, the next time you will be at the Starbucks, you cannot work anymore. Hehehe.
I think it's kinda great to have some kind of quickie at work, or at a coffee shop... That will surely de-stress you!
I love the dynamics in this website. People have varied opinions even when cheating really is black and white. It is wrong. But wrong is almost always the better deal, right?
Well, since you haven't placed a foot inside yet, don't get started. You might regret it. Don't do things you might regret later on, or don't get yourself in a situation you may not be able to get out of. Avoid while it's still early. You really need to cut your wife some slack. Having a baby isn't easy. If anything, you should appreciate her more.
I do appreciate my wife, I do. And our baby is the most amazing thing. But sometimes, you just want to feel special.
Having an affair at a time when your wife is dealing with a newborn is just insensitive and selfish, IMO. Instead of spending energy on an affair or on thinking about having one, try to help your wife. She needs a hand. Especially at a time when her body also needs time to rest and heal from pregnancy and childbirth.
I do cheat, I know, I know. But I also know how tough it is to have a new baby at home with only just the two of you. I am speaking as a very hands-on parent.
I totally agree with TheSecret. If you plan on cheating on your wife and you don't want to be stopped, by all means do it. Just not now when your wife needs all your support. Women who have just given birth are emotionally and even mentally vulnerable, and yes, they also need physical healing. She needs you now.
It's a surprise that you don't like spending time with your kid. I'm sorry. I don't mind the part about the intention to cheat. But please...don't be an ass and think about how your wife feels taking care of the baby without any help from you. Worse, you're talking about getting out of the house because of YOUR baby's crying. Hello! That's what babies do. You don't seem to love your baby.
It's a surprise that you don't like spending time with your kid. I'm sorry. I don't mind the part about the intention to cheat. But please...don't be an ass and think about how your wife feels taking care of the baby without any help from you. Worse, you're talking about getting out of the house because of YOUR baby's crying. Hello! That's what babies do. You don't seem to love your baby.
I love my kid. That's why I'm working so hard to be able to provide for my kid. But when I'm in work mode, sometimes, a crying baby does not make work easy for me.
