I am starting to like someone - and I really mean seriously like someone. After moments of self-pity for having an HIV and a crooked past characterized mostly by promiscuous lifestyle, I am starting to consider of having a serious relationship. The problem is - will she accept me after learning of who I was before and on the fact that I have an HIV? Fate has really its own way of getting into us. Here I am, trying to start a new life and be with someone special, but fate might seem not to allow it.
And how do you know this "seriously like" already means that you're ready to settle down or at least be in a serious monogamous relationship with that person? Don't all relationships start this way? Or is it just because you have HIV and can't fool around as much as you want? I just hate it when previously promiscuous people stop being promiscuous just because they have HIV or some serious disease. Otherwise, they would never stop changing their lifestyle. I mean, it would have been great if people like you stop jumping from one person's bed to another because you realize it's not healthy and it's wrong. I'm sorry if I'm ranting. I know you have your regrets too.
I hate to put a damper on your love life. But it is difficult for anyone to accept somebody who has HIV. I'm sorry, but I think I'm just saying what you should accept as the truth.
Duncan, that's good. That would be a great change. It takes a leap of faith to actually say your history over someone you like. Go and tell her you like her. There is no harm in trying.
Duncan, that's good. That would be a great change. It takes a leap of faith to actually say your history over someone you like. Go and tell her you like her. There is no harm in trying.
Thanks a lot. I really appreciate the encouragement.
I hate to put a damper on your love life. But it is difficult for anyone to accept somebody who has HIV. I'm sorry, but I think I'm just saying what you should accept as the truth.
I agree with Overcoffee here. Please don't think of this as an offense but we are just showing you here on the possibilities if ever you will confess your feelings to this girl. You have to do a lot of thinking and weigh all the possibilities.
No big deal. Go and tell her that you like her. Any rejection (if ever) will not hurt you for you you have been able to carry the most painful things in life so far...and you survive.
Duncan, having HIV doesn't mean the end of the world. So go, go, go. I'm sure you have learned your lesson and won't fool around this time. And always, always protect your future partner.
